“Why do you suck so much? Stop sucking so much!”
Someone actually made this remark to me during a grappling class. I clearly wasn’t doing too well that day. They knew that I could handle it. They also knew that I wasn’t living up to my potential. I’m pretty open to feedback. I don’t call someone a hater if they share an honest thought with me. I did feel awful about how poorly I was doing though. If you’re a competitive person, there’s nothing worse than sucking at something.
There are days where I feel on top of the world and I’m ready to take on everyone. On the flip side, there are days where I don’t feel like getting out of bed because I feel like a fraud. I feel like I don’t even deserve to share my ideas with the world. I feel like hiding and avoiding everyone. I feel ashamed for putting myself out there like I do. I start thinking about how I should just give up and be “normal.”
This will happen to you at some point in your life. You’re going to feel like a complete failure. You’re going to feel like you suck at everything.
Guess what? You might be right. You might not be living up to your potential at all. I want to explain to you why you might be doing poorly at everything.
Why do you suck at everything?
You don’t have a game plan.
You hope for the best. You think that things are just going to magically work out for you. You go through your days without any plan. You’re always reacting to whatever happens. You don’t plan in advance at all. You don’t think about your next move.
Nobody’s coming to save you. You won’t become the best at something by accident. You need to have a game plan. You can’t just be so vague about everything. It helps to have a clear idea of where you want to go and how you plan on getting there.
What do you exactly want?
- Do you want to get out of debt?
- Do you want to start a business?
- Do you want to save $20k?
- Do you want to start a YouTube channel?
For any of this to happen you have to make a plan and go after it. Stop wandering aimlessly through life without any plan.
You don’t commit fully.
“You can never cross the ocean until you have the courage to lose sight of the shore.” — Christopher Columbus
I’m guilty of this. As useless as motivational quotes are when it comes to committing, the reality is that too many of us don’t fully give it are all. We try for a bit. We put in a little effort. Then we give up when we don’t instantly become superstars.
You want to know why? We’re afraid of failure (next point).
You don’t commit to anything all the way. You dabble a bit in everything. You test out the waters instead of jumping in. You beat around the bush. You give it a little bit of effort because you don’t want to risk giving it your all and coming out on the losing end.
- You try going back to college but you give up after a semester.
- You want to start a business but when you don’t get a client after a week you close up shop.
- You want to start saving more money, but you give into temptation and you never save a penny.
- You want to make money online, but you’re looking for passive income to save you because you don’t want to put the work in.
You need to fully commit to something. You can’t be dabbling in things. You have to either jump into the pool or enter another pool. You’re not going to benefit from testing out everything and never committing to one thing.
You don’t want to fail.
“Our greatest glory is not in never failing, but in rising every time we fail.” – Confucious
There are so many things that I don’t want to fail at. So what do I do? I make up excuses to justify why I’m not successful. I blame time or age or something or someone.
I do this with wrestling all of the time. I rationalize why I’ll never make it. I create excuses for myself in advance. I leave the back door open.
You’ve been guilty of this. You know that the pretty girl at the coffee shop won’t like you so you don’t bother asking her out. But how do you know? How do you know that she won’t like you? You don’t. You’re just afraid of failure.
You don’t want to start a business because you don’t want to fail. You don’t try that new diet because you assume that you can’t do it.
Stop being so afraid of failure. Get out there and fail daily. Have fun with it. Failure will suck be it beats not even trying. The one time that you don’t fail will make it all worth it.
You don’t stick to one thing.
I admit that I always have multiple projects on the run. However, I try my best to focus on one thing at a time. You’re likely not doing too well at anything because you don’t have one main goal.
When I help readers get out of debt, I let them know that they have to commit everything to this. Getting out of debt will be their main project until they reach freedom. Nothing else matters. You have to focus on paying off that debt. You have to stick to one thing until you see results.
We’re all guilty of not sticking to one thing.
You don’t really want it.
You can really do anything that you want. It’s just going to take everything that you have.
You already know this. You just don’t want it bad enough. You claim that you do, but deep down you’re not willing to do what it takes. You’re not willing to do whatever it takes.
You don’t actually want it. Why do you think gyms offer all kinds of crazy deals to get people to sign up? They know that you’re going to sign up and never come after a month because you’re going to see how much you have to work. Let’s be honest here. Work scares away most people.
What can you do?
- Accept that you’re guilty of one or all of these excuses.
- Do something about it. Now that you know why things aren’t working out, it’s time to take action. Grabbing our Success Planner is a great first step!
The biggest barrier often revolves around coming clean to yourself about your faults. From there, you have to make a plan and take action so that you’re not in the same boat one year from now.
“Most great people have attained their greatest success one step beyond their greatest failure.” — Napoleon